Freedom of Expression-Psychological Aspect!
We should give ourselves the freedom to express first,this will help us identify who we are,what our needs are. When we don’t give ourselves
the freedom to express , we will not know our true self. Without knowing one’s self, we can't satisfy us. Nothing will be enough.Life would always feel empty or half naked.
We have created a system(Birth,School,College,Job,Marriage,children,Taking care of children,Oldage,Retirement,Death), nomatter how broad or openly we think,we tend to go back and live in the system. There are also certain rules and principles in this system like you should be strict with the children inorder for them to win in life, you should marry only once,Men must earn,women must give birth etc. More than this structure of lifestyle, this system has also successfully created an impact in our minds,that whoever does anything other than the system are been shamed, and made to feel guilt for not following the so called “system lifestyle”.Its because we were made to believe this system as perfect life.
So, living inside this system and when one comes to know
about one’s self,there are higher chances that they might judge or shame
themselves for coming to know what their needs are,for who they are.That much impact
this system has created in our minds.Eventually,fearing to accept oneself, People
will not try to know themselves,which results in lack of freedom to express
within themselves.Lack of freedom to express might sound safe for the moment, because others will not know who we are and we can show like we also act by the system rules,but our life changes
in each stages (we can say that change happens for each decade).When life change,
our needs will change. Our needs are here to make us enjoy the life. The system
we have created is making us feel miserable, because the system made us feel shame/guilt
for having the needs at each age.
Freedom of expression leads to Acceptance:
When we give ourselves the freedom to express, we will get
to know who we are.when we find out who we are, we will start to accept ourselves
which will lead to enjoyment in life.
For Example, Queer community people found who they are ,what
they want/need and they broke the system and its rules and they are enjoying
the life by accepting themselves.
We all celebrate Queer month,but to be frank, We don’t even
have like 50% of their guts to express or accept ourselves.
The reason why we are not able to express is because of our
childhood, our parents childhood, our grandparents childhood, Grandparent’s
parent’s childhood…to all the ancestor’s childhood,Maybe it might have broken
in the middle. It is kind of a generational trauma,which our parents,our grandparents,
their parents did not know that they can be expressive,they can have a open
talk with their children.Instead, They were made to believe that acting
dominant with the kids is what make them respect ,eventually kids will inherit
that dominance behaviour from their parents.If unless the kid is been awakened or
enlightened,it will continue for generations,and people will die living in the
system and not living for themselves.
Where the Parents got the dominant behaviour? – From the workplace.
Literally everyone of us is working under some people. Even Our PM works for
us, he will be questioned if something goes wrong. So, when the parents feel
like losing the power all the time in the workplace, to satisfy their ego, they
will do the exact dominant behaviour they have faced on their own children.This
will make them feel more powerful.Most of the parents do this dominant behavior
to their children till their oldage.
This kind of
childhood make us not express anything.When the Gate to express has been closed
inside,we cant know who we are and what we want, which results in accepting and
adjusting with whatever comes the way.And one day ,that life will start feel
like hell,then we will bear everything and die for the system.
How To be expressive?
We have to find the God,
the innerself is the God.
We should be ready to find and open the gates that’s been
closed in us. For example, try to say a compliment to a person like “ your
shoes are nice “, if you cant express it, find the pain or the emotion you get,
then sit and talk with it yourself ,be curious to find what would happen if you
express it. Here,we are trying to create the space to express within ourselves,
which we didn’t get in our childhood.We are being parents to ourselves to find
what we like and what we want without doubting,which is finding the God.
Maybe there can be a debate on which is god- whether its
lord Hanuman or Lord Vishnu or Lord Ganapathi
or Jesus or Allah..etc?
None of the God which we worship didn’t tell us to worship them.But
they do tell us be like them.
For Example,There is a story , one day Lord shiva did shiva
thandavam, and Lord Vishnu felt the vibration of the lord shiva’s dance, and
the Adhisheshan on which lord Vishnu is lying down, could feel the lord vishnu’s
vibration and could not bear the weight of lord Vishnu.Adhisheshan asked Lord Vishnu
about the vibration he felt ,which Lord Vishnu told about the power of the shiva’s
dance.Then After finding out the benefits of such yoga, Adhisheshan requested
lord Vishnu to send him to earth to teach the benefits of such type of yoga to
the people for a happy life.Then Adhisheshan reborn as “Patanjali” on earth to
teach the yoga to the people.Thats how Yoga was given to us.And in today’s
modern world, Dance is the highest form of meditation.
"When you are alone,dance like an idiot,that's who we all are"
Because of the system lifestyle, we have developed unwanted
emotions like anger, sadness,guilt,shame..we have to use this Yoga to overcome
this in order to find who we are and what our needs are.So Gods do even tell us
to find the innergod and enjoy being who we are.
Instead of looking into what the Gods tried to teach us, we
all worship them.Worshipping them is not bad,but we should atleast try to find
what each God has said.That’s essential to find what our needs are.
According to me,Lord Vishnu is Lord Vishnu,Lord Hanuman is
Lord Hanuman, You are you, and we are nor lesser nor greater than any Gods.The
world is created for us.There is a power ,but not below or above us.Its within
us.
We exchange energy.
husband -wife,mother-children.etc.
Literally Every relationship on earth exchange some energy.
Innerchild need to be loved!
The innerchild is the innerself.If in childhood,the innerchild
didn’t get the care or love ,then the gate to express will
automatically be half closed.There will be a coping mechanism, in which the child
might have expressed what happens in their life with someone they like in
his/her imagination.It gets continued till oldage.This is not an serious
issue,unless it goes for less than 1 hour per day.
“We are not addicted to drugs or alcohol ,we are addicted to
escaping reality”
Some do write diary .Those children can all express,the
problem is they got used to express it in imagination which used to be far more
satisfying than in reality,where they don’t have to deal the emotions at
all.also they dont know the pattern of how to handle the emotion they get when they
try to express it to someone in real.
Breaking all this, and trying to be expressive takes a lot of
courage.It is not at all easy.Some level of self awareness will be harmful to
the individual,as we live in a society where people abide by the rules of the
system lifestyle.Even if someone found themselves and start to live for
themselves, the people who abide by the rules of the society will judge them
and make the person self judge or shame him/herself.
Love is the absence of Judgement -Dalai Lama.
Psychologically, the ones who judge others, were once must
be judged by others or they must have judged themselves ,and they have not
tried to sit and make clear of the shame they have felt,that emotion got buried
in them and later when they find someone who break the system, the buried
emotion gets backfire and they will judge or shame others to fulfill their ego
or their shame.(Literally they will make themselves feel they are not alone
with the similar shame).It's just a reflection of themselves.
Everything we have been taught needs to be rewritten.We have
to write the rules to live for us.Its not about breaking the system, it's actually living for
us by being in the system.It all takes a lot of mental strength.
After crossing all this, we will easily accept that everything
and everyone is temperory.we can only live in the moment,maybe we can try to take
the bond to some years.But once we die, our memories of this life will die.Fresh
one will start.Even if we remember the previous life memories,we cant do anything.Its
like grieving about somone or something we think we lost.
Make use of this moment,try to be expressive.
Only being expressive will tell you how much you care and respect
yourself.You can only connect with someone how much you go deep and respect
yourself.
It’s such a small life.Each moment is precious.We came with
empty hand and we will go with the same.Take risks and be whatever you want.
What can you lose?.
-ROHINI.
I felt like OSHO after writing this …ЁЯШЭ
Instagram - @_.rohinii
nice writeup
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